a friend of mine mentioned today that maybe my anger is blocking my abilities. This makes a lot of sense to me, as when I get upset about something I cannot work at all, and the idea of carrying around anger constantly blocking my natural abilities sounds dead-on.

So...how do you let go of anger, when a situation isn't going to change? I'm dealing with a lot of passive aggressive people and my partner does not back me up the way he should, he'll say one thing then cave when the meddling relatives ask for something we expressly agreed we wouldn't allow, for example. We also seem to have many discussions about house rules, but he bends them for his daughter while expecting everyone else to do as agreed. It would be so simple to just say NO and stick to it, but he doesn't.

Other than being pissed about it, what do I do to just not care about whether or not he does what he promises? It's so tempting to do the same thing in return, but that's just going to continue the cycle and confuse our children more. Is my only option to give up and leave, or put up with it and somehow find a way not to notice? I'm getting mad just thinking about it.

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